Familiarity Breeds Security
Maybe it is someone you have seen while walking your dog, a person you have seen in the car pool lane, the kid who bags your groceries, or the meter reader. Familiar faces breed a false sense of security and intimacy. The more times you have crossed paths with someone the more you think you “know them” and the easier it is for them to get to you. The more likely it is you will operate in denial, ignore your gut, and assume that this person you “know” would operate in the world at the same moral level you would. Familiar faces may create dangerous situations by causing a delay in your ability to identify a threatening situation and your willingness to draw the line: to take action to keep yourself safe.
It is easier to identify a threat if a total stranger approaches you in the same manner as someone you are familiar with. Your emotional and mental response would be very different than with a familiar face. “Knowing” or being familiar with your attacker gives them leverage or the ability to manipulate you as they may know your soft spots, trigger points, or how to manipulate you without you recognizing it. Immediately, this gives them a great advantage over you. They understand that you will be more at ease because you “think you know them.” They are right – you likely will be more at ease because it is not a complete stranger approaching you.
Remember, wolves/predators have a different comfort level with violence, manipulation, and deceit than sheep and they will engage in violence while we are still trying to figure out what is going on.